Monday, May 23, 2011

My personality type

This weekend I've discovered some real interesting insights of my personality. While I was researching a possible career change this weekend, I came upon the concept of the Myers-Briggs personality types (MBPT), see for instance here. Based on their classification, there are 16 different personality types. Using an online quiz, it turned out that I have the INTP personality type. INTP stands for Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving. On the MB website it is described as follows:
Seek to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Theoretical and abstract, interested more in ideas than in social interaction. Quiet, contained, flexible, and adaptable. Have unusual ability to focus in depth to solve problems in their area of interest. Skeptical, sometimes critical, always analytical.
There are many other websites dealing with MBTP, describing the personality types in more detail. I especially like this one, and this one. Most of the statements on those two pages about INTPs are spot on, and I recognize almost every bit of it in myself. It explains a lot of my behavior, and more importantly, I now finally realize that it (my behavior) is not something bad, but it is really who I am. It almost feels like coming out, and it allows me to accept who I am and knowing that there are many others who are like this, and that there is nothing wrong with it. I was so glad to have found this, and when discussing it with my wife, it also gave so much more insights into our relationship and interactions, and I am now much better able to understand why I sometimes act the way I do with respect to her. One characteristic of INTPs is that they tend to live in their own world, and have difficulties expressing their feelings and be compassionate towards others. This state of 'absent minded-ness' can be easily interepreted by others as disinterest or coldness. But by realizing all this, I have been in such a better state all weekend, was much more focused, and we've had great discussions, we relaxed, just so wonderful to feel and be loved. It would be interesting to learn what personality type she is, she hasn't taken the quiz yet. But I know she's definitely a 'feeling' type, whereas I am a 'thinking' type.

On a side note, I have also decided to quit the band I was in for the last few years. There was just no more chemistry for me. We had a show on Thursday night, and once again it became apparent to me that I wasn't enjoying it anymore. Interestingly, my decision to quit was done before I learned about MBPTs, so I wonder if I also felt much more relaxed in the last few days because of the relief I felt after quitting.

All in all a very revealing weekend for me, and I feel very positive about moving on, and am curious where I will be in the months to follow.